This month (month two) of my Happiness Project, I discovered I have bleeding themes.
Sounds gory and scary, be reassured, it isn't. A poor choice of words on my part to explain a phenomenon which occurs more often than not.
Let me explain.
When I first read the book, The Happiness Project, the author had nicely arranged her themes by month. One subject per month; clean, organized, practical, and the makings of a great book.
Since I was copying Gretchen Rubin's idea (the author) for my Happiness Project, it seemed logical to implement her method.
One Theme Per Month
While I hadn't fully planned my one theme per month calendar when I started my experiment, I had a good idea what my themes were for the first six months.
However, I quickly discovered that while the one theme per month was a great course of action for Gretchen Rubin, it wasn't so great for Florence. You can read more about how I arrived at this conclusion in the following blog post: Picking my New Happiness Project Theme.
For November, I settled on multiple themes with a few action steps. Let me preface by saying I am thrilled with my choice of working on multiple themes at one time, I nevertheless still encountered a new problem.
My Problem: Bleeding Themes
Let me further explain my poorly coined term of bleeding themes.
While I have decided upon about four themes and one to four small action steps per theme, I find myself wanting to incorporate some non-related action steps—or other subjects—into my ongoing month.
Bleeding refers to the "slipping" of extra-curricular action steps into my current plan. Kinda like when you miss a red sock in your load of whites when doing laundry.
Let me give a more pertinent example: children.
"Children" is one of my central themes with multiple actions steps. As a matter of fact, along with marriage, this is my most significant theme. For this reason, I was planning on working on this issue over the course of many months.
For November, I had decided to concentrate on the kids who live at home especially my youngests (twins) and my special needs child. However, I keep "slipping up."
I have done so with just about every theme.
I do try to tell myself this is not what I agreed to work on, that there are still many months (as in 10) to work on other action steps, that I can only do so much, that humans work best when they concentrate on one task. Blah blah blah. To no avail.
It's no use.
I also tell myself that life is short, so why put off until tomorrow what I can do today?
While I admire people who stick to one task and methodically proceed with their plan. Individuals who are clear, concise, disciplined and thorough. It appears that while on this project, I embody none of these qualities.
I am definitely more random and bouncy than disciplined and methodical.
My State of Being
Don't get me wrong, Being random isn't all bad. There is a flip side to everything, the proverbial "the other side of the coin" statement. Methodical can turn into unbending. Disciplined can turn into perfectionism.
On the other hand, a quality like randomness, which could first appear on the surface as being negative, can transform into flexible. Random can be a strength as readily as concise can become a weakness.
I am very creative. I bubble with ideas and excitement. I often joke that when I have new ideas my brain fizzes.
It's the harnessing of that energy I have a hard time controlling.
No Big Deal
As I write this post, I have just uncovered something of value.
So what if my themes bleed?
What's the big deal?
No one harmed.
I am spreading kindness and enjoying more happiness.
I feel energized with more aliveness.
I am happy, and if not, I now know I have the power as well as the ability to do something about it.
Instead of collecting problems, I find solutions.
I have goals, and I am meeting them albeit in—sometimes—an unorganized fashion.
So what, if sometimes I cross over a self-imposed line?
I seize the moment, that's good, right?
YES, it is VERY good.
And, additionally, it makes me HAPPY!
Nourishing Action Steps
I started this post thinking I had a problem: bleeding themes.
I now realized I was wrong.
Instead, I have discovered a way to nourish myself—as well as others—in body, mind, and spirit which I might add, is the whole purpose of this website in the first place. Upon making this unexpected discovery, don't mind me if I smile, pat myself on the back, and celebrate.
Have a great day!