I don’t even remember buying the book, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love, nevertheless I found it waiting for me in my Audible library.
Since I owned it, why not listen to it?
The authors are Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel Heller, M.A., and the book was published in 2012.
The Theory of Attachments
I must admit I’m fascinated by attachment theories for a couple of reasons:
I have read countless books on the subjects of attachment, trauma, neuroscience, etc. The main difference between the books I’ve previously read and “Attached,” is “Attached” is geared to adults rather than children.
I found the following excerpt on Amazon:
We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding “yes.”In Attached, Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment – the most advanced relationship science in existence today – can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:
My Review of “Attached”
In my opinion, “Attached” was an easy read. I neither found it overly technical nor difficult to understand, which is always a plus.
I appreciate any author who—despite holding a vast knowledge on a subject—manages to make it palatable and intelligible for the average Joe or Jane.
The authors didn’t spend any time expounding on the causes of the attachment style we develop as children and therefore, inherit as adults. This fact was fine with me although it may be difficult for others who are not as familiar with the subject. It indeed seemed to be a complaint from several Amazon readers who took the time to leave a review.
Doctor Levine and Ms. Heller delve with more depths into the solutions to manage your current attachment style within the confines of a love relationship. Their goal is to equip you so that you may be fulfilled and experience love; without too much drama.
The authors are not judgy, blaming, or preachy while sharing useful pointers.
The good news is, if your attachment is not currently secure, it can become so over time; given the right tools, some mindful work, and an understanding partner.
I believe my favorite section was the one on powerful communication. This particular chapter gave me new tools for my relationship toolbox.
My Summary of “Attached”
I believe “Attached” is worth the read, especially for individuals needing advice in these areas.
Few of us (no matter our great our childhood), fumble our way to adulthood without any scars. I managed to glean some great tips from this well-researched piece of non-fiction.
Last I checked, “Attached” had gleaned 814 reviews on Amazon, 79% of them a five star. Overall, 91% of its rating was a four-star or above.
Not too shabby.
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment comes in various formats: hardcover, paperback, kindle, audible version, and audio CD. You can purchase either format here.*
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